Getting out of the friend zone can be challenging, as the person you’re interested in typically sees you primarily as a friend and shifting that perception can be difficult and the friendship may  get at stake. 

I know it’s hard being in that dark cold place which we call the friend zone especially if you have feelings for her.

But how do you know you’re in the friend zone? Check out these sign which are clear indicator that she sees you as a friend:

– She talks about her other romantic interests and also asks for your advice and support to approach her crush.

-She doesn’t reciprocate when you try to flirt with her, rather she changes the topic and avoids that conversation.

-She never hangs out with you alone and always brings her friends with her.

-She treats you the same as all her other friends.

-Worst of all, she often says you’re just a friend and brother to me.

However, it may be difficult, but it’s not impossible. As promised I’ll help you out escaping the friend zone.

The following are various strategies you can consider while trying to escape the friend zone and cultivate a romantic relationship.

1. Don’t hide your romantic side:

Remember you’ll have to take the charge, she’ll never imagine herself holding hands or kissing you if you continue to talk and act like a general friend and never try to make small moves (which we’ll discuss further) in fear of rejection. Doing it in real life is just next to impossible .

Showing her your romantic side and being humorous alongside will get you a long way. 

But don’t overdo it. You don’t need to copy something you saw in a movie or recite poems if that is not your thing. You just have to express – in your own way – that you’re interested in being more than just a friend.

Confused? Check How to be romantic

2. Be Mysterious:

One thing girls love the most is mystery, if you’re predictable and she knows everything about you she’ll not feel any sexual tension for you.

Sharing is fine but oversharing will put you straight to the friend zone.

Share things, but keep some secrets. Tease her by making it obvious that you’re hiding something.

For example, you can say “I have somewhere to be this weekend, so we can’t meet.” and don’t tell her where this “somewhere” is.

3. Never be always available:

If you’re always there, say yes to all her requests and reply to her text in a split second then my friend you’re killing all the mystery we talked about earlier.

You have to stop doing these things as it leads straight to friend zone, you’ll become her bestie not a lover.

You may say, “but I want to show her that I like her”. I know, but you have to show her that you have a life other than her. Never make a girl your #1 priority, she’ll lose interest very fast.

The more you’re available for her the less sexy and mysterious you become. We all want what we can’t get easily, don’t we? The easier you are to get the less value you have in her mind.

4. Seduce her:

As you were able to apply the above steps successfully and you’ve built a desirable image in front of her and she started taking interest in you now it’s time for the next step.

Seducing her will create a sexual tension between you two, this requires some skill and how you approach this matters a lot.

Since you’ve become close this is not going to be that hard. Keep it playful and funny.

There are various ways to seduce, hold eye contact while talking, look a little long at her lips and then bite yours and then laugh about it like it’s fun and game.

Check her reaction, if she is blushing, shying away then you’re on the right path, it’s working.

Check out, Secrets Of Seduction.

5. Break Physical Barriers:

Well this can be a little tricky as if not done correctly you may look desperate and creepy. If you’re getting a positive response from step 3 then you’re good to proceed with this.

Breaking physical barriers is important in transition from being a friend to a lover. Shake hands when you meet, give a side hug while making eye contact, tap on shoulder between conversations, etc. 

There are various ways you can approach this but make sure to check her reaction as it is important that she does not feel uncomfortable being around you.

6. Tell her you like her:

If all fails then it’s time to take the last chance, after all this is what you wanted and waiting for longer will only waste your time.

You have to take the risk. Sure you can remain friends, but there can be a chance of you two being together as lovers.

You may lose the friendship and she may never talk to you again, but it is a risk you should 

be willing to take it.

Also, think what if she was waiting for your confession all along?

 7. Keep other options open:

As the saying goes, don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Do the same with your emotional eggs.

Be open to other opportunities. Meet new people and keep exploring other romantic possibilities. Maybe you find better options, you never know.

If she is the only girl you talk to and want her to fall for you, you may become impatient as you’re putting all you hope and focus on one girl.

When you have more than one option you tend to be less needy and give them enough space to process their emotions as well.

Conclusion:

I know it’s hard being in that cold dark place which we call friend zone especially if you have feelings for her, but if you don’t become needy, desperately trying to get her and follow the above strategies the odds will be in your favour.